Archive | September 2012

The Recipe For A Less Burdening Life

Had you been burdened by your daily workloads, studies, or responsibilities? Living life is like facing a challenge everyday. Everyone knows that and there is no reason for another article to stress on that. So, how to have a less burdening life? Here is how…

1. Do not take up extra weight
What do I mean here by extra weight? Life is already burdening enough, it is time to ditch what is unnecessary to free up some space. First, you must understand that, such weights are what you put on yourself. You always have the choice to not carry them, therefore definitely never blame others for the weight you had yourself to carry. Extra weights are simply your negative side.

Being critical.
Stop being critical. As you criticize, you unknowingly add expectations to you and everyone/everything else around you. Accepting is a much easier task to be done.

Refusal to offer help.
At times, you would feel like your life is burdening enough and it is completely idiotic to carry others’ burdens as well. Bear in mind, the more people you helped, the better you are in solving problems, or even better, you may be rewarded with numerous helping hands.

Tendency to take out/overthrow.
There are also times when you feel like it would be easier in life if you just take out all of the competitors or tackling your issues once and for all. The route to achieve such is however shorter, but undeniably steeper.

2. Trying too hard
Not in every situation, that the law of “Effort + Time = Success” applies efficiently. If you try too hard to achieve something without taking the time to think of the reason and to understand what you have to do, you’re just making your aims as hard to achieve as the efforts you put in.

3. You did it yourself
It is important for us to know our faults. Our mind is divided. In most religions, it is more familiarly known as the inner battle of good and evil. However, the concept is slightly different in reality. Our mind is divided by a thin line between realization and ignorance. By default, we are created balanced. As we tend to deny that most of the problems we faced are caused by what we have done, we slowly conclude that all these are the faults of others, luck, or fate. None of these could force you to what you do not wish to if you really did not have the intentions to do so. When we decided to give in to such thoughts, our region of ignorance is increased. This causes us to look away from the source of problems and provide ourselves with false assumptions of solutions, thus never solving them. When this problems are unsolved and stacked up, it would one day topple us with its intense weight.

4. Ways to solve
Lastly, it is our weakness when it comes to finding a solution for our problems. But most of the time, we act upon our instincts. In most cases, we already know what we should do but we tend to not do it because we lack in the correct mindset to initiate. Always trust your logical thoughts more than the rest. When your mind has the solution, other parts of your inner self may discourage you to do so because they think that it is more burdening than it already is. Yes, solutions are often what you need to sacrifice to achieve. But do you prefer to carry a 50kg boulder for a short period, or carry a 10kg stone for the rest of your life? Do the maths and trust your logical thinking.

All in all, only we ourselves can solve our problems. We can never provide the recipe and hoping for a chef to come out with something exactly to your preference. When you want something to be done according to what you prefer, get into action yourself. Most importantly, do not in any circumstances, unknowingly made your life more burdening than it already is.


Nostalgia: Virtual Time-Travel

Do you still remember how it was like back then in your younger years? What was once horrific and challenging for you, is now a comfort zone. When we were forced to spell words, forced to eat vegetables, not allowed to play in the playground and many more. All those are sweet memories, aren’t they?

Take a moment, sit back and relax and gaze into thin air. Flashback to your past and dig for sweet memories you had not taken much time to look into them anymore.

I bet at some stages of our lives, we would tell ourselves this, “I will keep this in my memory as long as I’m alive”, but as time passes by, we left it there, like a used book on a deserted bookshelf. Nevertheless, somehow, at some time, someone will have to bring it back up. Why not now?

Remember a long lost friend of yours, who had once been important to you, and now not knowing where he or she is? Use the time now, to cherish your memories of such important people in your lives. After years of not seeing them, find a way to contact them instead.

Remember the old toys you used to have, that you kept in your attic or basement, or donated? How those things, with or without a soul, had accompanied you in your younger years. Flashing back, you might feel so deeply connected it might seem like Toy Story, literally happened to you. Doesn’t the scene in Toy Story 3 where Andy had to wave off his beloved toys while on his way to college, remind you of your toys as well? Well, I do.

Remember the day you met your first crush? When you thought you were so close to finding your true love, yet you were still too young to understand? The day he or she said that it could happen, the excitement you felt, and the short term puppy love you had. How you missed such memories, when what seems so mild could be so happy to you. Most importantly, the lessons you learned and the experience you gained from your past relationships.

Remember the ones who passed on? Your beloved family members or friends who left you, to a better place. Have you prayed for their soul lately? My beloved grandfather passed away 3 years ago, and now thinking of all the things we used to do, the time we used to spent, truly is beautiful. Who said we can’t revive those who have lost the essence of life? Remember them, appreciate them, and simply playback memories you had of them.

Time-travelling back to such memories would remind you, who you were, how you were raised, who you are supposed to be and most importantly, what mistakes you had done and not wish to repeat.

You could meet people from your past, and learn to cherish them if you still could, today. As much as it helped me, I hope this helps my readers as well.

Can We Still Not Sin, Living With Society?

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Compared to the 16th and 17th century, our society’s norms had gone through big changes. Back then, our concept of morality was much more abundance compared to now (it was never enough anyway).

Can we live by a day, not using a foul word or swearing? No. It has become a norm for nasty words to be spoken. Foul words are now, languages in their tongue. Meaning that, the word F*** is now considered decent to be included in dictionaries. If we were to use such a word back then, how would the society look at us? In most religions, I believe, is against the usage of least decent words. How have we performed so far? Tremendously awful.

It is though I might not need to censor the word. How would it offend anyone?

If you are a Buddhist, it is taught that, we must always speak decently – only speak if you have something nice to say. But is the word F*** decent?

Though our society has changed, meaning to say, such a word may not be as hurtful or as taboo as before, does it removes itself from the “sin list”? Could we, if we had the chance, to ask Buddha, Jesus or any other from other religions, if we could simple say F***, but not literally mean it, and to be counted as decent, provided that the society we live in could accept such a word gently?

If a word we spoke does not hurt anyone, how could it be a foul word, right? Well, maybe some of us who agree are right.

But, what about our other least decent sides? Let us see an example. If David is to mix around with his bunch of friends who seriously think fat people are useless, will it hurt if he too, thinks the same? Well, you might think David would not differ himself from the rest of the jerks, but we cannot deny the fact that the majority thinks so. So who are we to blame David? It has already been stereotyped that fat people are not favoured, yet we tend to say those who think so are not considerable?

In this case, have not we discriminated? Yet in all teachings of morality and religion discourage us to do so. Then, if we were to cope along with the society could we have done wrong?

Recently, I have read a book regarding Buddhism. It is said that, to be a good lay Buddhist, is to practise all the teachings of Buddha, and at the same time cope well with the society. I was there thinking, there is no way we could successfully pull this through. It is either we lean towards religion, or coping with society.

If you were to distant yourself from what everyone else is doing, you are obviously an anti-social, no matter how religious and how wrong you think you would be if you were to participate yourself into whatever that is going on.

The society is the majority. Society’s degradation is due to the degradation of the majority. Due to the fact that most people are being “religious” yet at the same time, please everyone in the society, gave birth to the term, not many of us know, that is ‘Religion today, is all but morality’. People who are involved in such an act, take religion as a title, not for the sake of the teachings.

Most religions oppose discrimination, yet as members of the society, we discriminated. How much have we truly sinned and wronged?

We do not simply change the rules of acceptance in religions just to cope with our living standards. We, ourselves must change to cope with all the teachings in religions. There are many more acts besides discrimination that is further deteriorating our quality of norms.

The individualistic quality is now judged by how well one can cope with society, not concepts or morality or religion.

And the question arises, can we still not wrong or sin, while living with the society?